Quantum Gender (she = wave / he = particle)

People are not male or female. We are both. We are each a yin / yang symbol. One of our genders attaches to our physical body, the remainder becomes our psychological / emotional body. Thus, men have a female emotional body and women have a male emotional body. We are all rooted in our strong (i.e., masculine) body, which is why men are connected to physical drives (sex, food, fighting external threats) and women are more connected emotions and emotional motivations (love, fear, anger, envy).

The psychological body has its own "brain" which is the soul, and source of wisdom and connection to Tao/spirit. So women naturally tend to act wiser and more spiritual. And men are more connected to the physical brain with its intelligence. So men naturally tend to act more intelligent than women. This is NOT saying men ARE more intelligent. We are not. Average intelligence is about the same. But if two people have the same intelligence, but one does not care so much about that aspect of themselves, they are more invested in their feelings, in being wise rather than smart, they will not develop their intelligence, hone it, apply it with the same vigor. Men simply exercise their intellect more, like a muscle that gets more exercise. We don't have higher IQ's and any woman can for whatever reason decide to exercise her intellect and be every bit as smart as any man, and some have done so. And some men have exercised their wisdom (hello, there) to a degree that makes them wise as any woman. But that is not our typical path, it bucks the trend, exceptions that prove the rule. Transgender is a real thing because we have both genders within us, if for some reason the "wrong" halves of our soul gets connected to the physical and psychological bodies, we have people who have a female part of their soul connected to the male physical body and male part of the soul connected to the female emotional body. Gender fluidity may be where for some the attachments of soul to physical and psychological body can switch. I think perhaps there is some kind of switch for our attachments that can behave differently in some. Could be a result of environmental influences that affect us. But I also believe we have some conscious control over this. I know LGBTQ+ advocates may crucify me for this, but I think we can meditate on and learn to consciously shift these attachments, control this switch, move from gay to straight, etc. Then we are all gender fluid, and it is under conscious control. That may be the most evolved form of gender. Note, just because you can do a thing, does not mean you should. The fact is, our male soul is deeply aligned with our male physical body. Same for women. And same for our psychological body. Thus, we are probably most efficient, and it is probably most prudent, to choose to have the halves of your soul match the gender of the physical and psychological bodies to which they attach, and just leave the ability to swap them as maybe a kink to explore with your spouse or poly-fam. Men and women must learn when NOT to apply the golden rule to one another and, perhaps, instead apply the exact opposite. The golden rule (treat others as you would like to be treated) assumes the others are like us, want what we want, enjoy what we want, dislike what we dislike, are hurt by what hurts us. However, men and women are like puzzle pieces that, on one side, are precisely opposite in order to fit together. These opposite characteristics include psychology and emotional response as well as our biological drives. If we apply the golden rule to one another, it is the exact wrong thing to do. This is, in part, why "nice guys" finish last. They are so nice they keep applying the golden rule to women, which does not work in romantic hetero relations. Men are rock, women are sand. Women are wave, men are particle. Gender is an expression of quantum forces. For men, sex is literally every bit as important and necessary and wondrous and magical as love is for women. In our society, we pretend romantic love should be put on a pedestal and sex is a base drive that the best of us can rise above, but in fact, both are equal. Romantic love is no better than sex. Both are on par. Too much sex-shaming of men for having a lust for sex the way women lust for love. And since women are more connected to the emotional body, their primary feelings are from emotions. Men, more connected to the physical body, have their feelings primarily come from the physical body. This greatly affects how we see the world and our choices and actions. Women feel emotional pain to a greater degree than men. Men feel physical pain to a greater degree than women. Pleasures, too, at least in most cases.